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What If There Is Something Better Out There For Me?

If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person. It’s how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit. – William J. Clinton

Have you ever asked yourself that question: What if there is something better out there for me?

In another word, it is a question of: Should I hang on or should I go and chase another thing?

It is a question of context.

If you are currently unsatisfied with your life, whether it is about your job, your health, your relationship, the answer is always to seek the greener posture outside.

That would mean if your job is at rock bottom, or your health has hit an all time low. If you are obese and in high risk of getting heart attack, by all means, change!

If it is currently an OK situation for you with your job, you may want to consider it carefully. To change job would mean to leave your current job.

It is a question of opportunity cost. Would the perceived benefits of a new job outweigh the loss from quitting this job?

A few questions to ponder:
What are your passions?
Would the new job lead you to your life’s grander objective?
Would it align you to your life values?
Why are you leaving your current job?
Would you experience the same thing in your new job?
Instead of seeking new job, is there something you should learn to improve on yourself first? 

The questions have been posted before you. The question now is, what would you choose?

Choose wisely.




The Perfect Wife

We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity. – Barbara de Angelis

Just the other day, I took a taxi ride after a midnight movie with a friend.

As I struck a conversation with the driver, he said wearily, “It’s tiring driving at night. It’s not like others understand.”

Me:“Yeah, but it’s worth it for your family.”

Him: “Yeah! Everything I’m doing for my family is worth it.” (His face lighted up)

Me: “Your wife must be very happy.”

Him: “I’ve been married for 30 years. There’s no perfect wife. It takes time to work on it. It took 30 years. There’s no perfect person in the world. You are not perfect. You can’t expect a perfect wife. But you can work things out. It takes time. And effort.”

He’s happily married with three kids. I didn’t get his name as I was listening too in-depth on his stories.

It was a short 10 minutes ride, but he imparted a powerful lesson on relationship. As with any relationship, you need to put in the time and effort.

You may not find the perfect person, but you may find the right person for you. The perfect fit for you. Someone who understands you. Someone who accepts you as you are. Someone whom you love and loves you the same.

Relationship is not something to be taken for granted for.

It is something that you need to work on, put in effort. Every. Single. Day.

What would you do to improve on your relationship? Remember, it may not be easy. But it would worth every effort that you take.





Curate or Create

Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort. – Franklin D. Roosevelt

As a blogger, it’s my intention to create value to my readers.

Bloggers constantly churn out new materials. New articles. New contents.

However, creative juice may run dry.

You may hit a writer’s block.

You may be stuck, unable to write.

How then do you proceed?

Well, there’s an alternative. You can curate.

Curate is simply a process of collecting relevant articles and mash them into an interesting piece of rojak (salad dish).

One doesn’t simply dump all the information in one place.

Curate is an arts. You choose what information you want to collect.

You choose which categories to use.

You choose which information goes into which category.

It is as much of the things you take out as to the things you put in to your writings.

To curate, one doesn’t  reinvent the wheels.

To curate, one consolidate the wisdom of the world.

To curate, one must be creative and innovative. It is an arts, not a landfill.

As of writing, curate helps in all areas of life. It’s a matter of investigation, to gather information of life and to sort them out.

How do you curate your life story? How do you curate ideas of healthy lifestyle? How do you curate ideas of study smart? How do you curate ideas of fulfilling relationships with your loved one?



Prevention and Cure

Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. – Louise L. Hay

As the sayings go, prevention is better than cure.

Prevention is the pain of maintaining a good habit.
Cure is the pain of rectifying a bad habit.

Do you wish to eat an apple a day to keep fit?
Or do you wish to eat medicine to cure your cold?

Do you wish to study harder before exam?
Or do you wish to study harder for re-test?

Do you wish to treat others with respect?
Or to treat others after you lost their respect?

It’s either the pain of hard work or the pain of regret.

Look through your life today. Whether it is about your health, your career, your relationship, your personal development, what is the lack you see? How can you prevent the dire situation that you may be heading towards to?



Pain and Pleasure

The noblest pleasure is the joy of understanding. – Leonardo da Vinci

Tony Robbins once said that our actions are governed by pain and pleasure. Actually, he says it over and over again.

Just like the basic organism moving away from heat and towards food, we human do quite similarly as well.

We do things to avoid pain. We also do things to gain pleasure. What do we really avoid and what do we really want?

For wealth, we may be avoiding the pain of begging on the street. We want the pleasure of having the money to buy the things our heart desires.

For health, we may be avoiding heart attack due to being obese. We want the pleasure of being able to wear sexy clothes.

For relationship, we may be avoiding fear of loneliness. We want the pleasure of companionship, sharing all the goodness in life.

Think of your life goals in terms of pain and pleasure. Think of the pain you are avoiding and the pleasure you want. Incorporate them into your annual goals.

How do you re-write your goals – this time round with the pain and pleasure?



Happy Valentine’s Day

We can only learn to love by loving. – Iris Murdoch

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Tony Robbins, and his gal, Sage, recently hosted a Spreecast chat (click on the link for the webcast). In which, they answered questions regarding relationships.

A few take-aways from the webcast:

Relationship changes start with you. You have the power to decide and change its direction. Take 100% responsibility.

Decide what kind of person you would like to attract. Write down the list. Clarity rules.

From the list, decide and determine to become the person who would attract your dream gal/guy.

Always be in good state. A good man can do mean things when in bad state. It is all in your mind.

There are many more, but I’ll leave it to you on their 1 hour-long webcast. Have fun!

What would be your take-aways from the webcast?



Lessons from uncle mover

Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated. – Confucius

This morning, I helped out my friends in house-moving. Finally, they have a place to call their own. Still waiting for mine though.

Can you believe that two people can have the total items of 6 people? Unbelievable.

Anyway, it was a half an hour trip to their new place. As I shared the back of the lorry with one of the movers, he began to share some lessons with me.

Uncle Steve said:

Take care of your health. You are young, you don’t realize it. But when you get older, you will see all the pain.

Learn basic skills. Driving. Handicraft. Computing. Etc. You will never know when you need it most.

Or when you find yourself unemployed one day.

Don’t buy branded clothes. You won’t be wearing the same clothes every single day. Save  up the money for better use.

Be frugal and yet still enjoy  life. You can eat buffet once in a while, but not everyday.

Stay healthy. Cut down on meat consumption.

Choose your life partner wisely. You are still young. Plenty of time. Let it come naturally.

In life, there are many so-called strangers who cross their paths with us. If you would just be open enough, and lend your ears – you will learn much more.

Whom are you going to listen to today? And learn some life lessons from them?