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Self Talk

A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer. – Bruce Lee

It is important to have a positive self talk.

It works better than having a negative self talk, or none at all.

However, Daniel Pink says that there is a better way – and that is interrogative self talk.

Simply put – ask yourself questions. The brain will be left with no choice but to respond to the questions.

Not all questions are created equal. The question asked should be those that are helpful the situation you are in.

Ask : Can you do this? If yes, how?

Try this out when you face a stressful situation. See if you can benefit from this simple exercise.

 

Meng

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Ask Better Question

A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer. – Bruce Lee

The quality of your life is directly linked to the questions that you ask.

Found this interesting article online. As usual, Upworthy shares inspiring posts.

How do you make a better life? By asking questions.

And the questions posted by Ben Franklin is truly interesting.

The 9 questions as follow:

1. Is there something you need help with?

2. Is anyone here starting a new project and is there a way we can help?

3. Anyone who’s doing innovative work?

4. Is there anyone whose friendship we want?

5. How can we use our networks to help each other?

6. Is there anyone we can mentor and encourage?

7. Can we give one another any personal/professional advice?

8. Can we improve anything about the circle itself?

9. Are there ways the circle should be connecting with and contributing to nearby communities?

How do you make a difference? How do you answer all these 9 questions?

Meng

What If There Is Something Better Out There For Me?

If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person. It’s how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit. – William J. Clinton

Have you ever asked yourself that question: What if there is something better out there for me?

In another word, it is a question of: Should I hang on or should I go and chase another thing?

It is a question of context.

If you are currently unsatisfied with your life, whether it is about your job, your health, your relationship, the answer is always to seek the greener posture outside.

That would mean if your job is at rock bottom, or your health has hit an all time low. If you are obese and in high risk of getting heart attack, by all means, change!

If it is currently an OK situation for you with your job, you may want to consider it carefully. To change job would mean to leave your current job.

It is a question of opportunity cost. Would the perceived benefits of a new job outweigh the loss from quitting this job?

A few questions to ponder:
What are your passions?
Would the new job lead you to your life’s grander objective?
Would it align you to your life values?
Why are you leaving your current job?
Would you experience the same thing in your new job?
Instead of seeking new job, is there something you should learn to improve on yourself first? 

The questions have been posted before you. The question now is, what would you choose?

Choose wisely.

 

Meng

Merry Christmas!

Christmas isn’t a season. It’s a feeling. – Edna Ferber

Merry Christmas!

Yes, I know it was yesterday. But hey, it is better late than never, no?

It’s that magical time of the year. Have you taken time to reflect how life has been treating you this whole year? Or how you have been performing?

Time to ponder. Some questions worth considering:

What were your goals this year?
How much have you accomplished them?
What really matters in your life?
How much time do you spend with your loved ones?
Is it your presents they are looking forward for, or your presence that they yearn for?
How much do you emphasize on your spiritual, health and personal development?
What are you looking forward to the year 2016?
What are the things that you regret?
What are the things you wished you could have done more?
What are the things you are grateful for?
What are the pleasant surprise that you have?
How much kindness have you shown to others?
How much integrity have you shown?

Of course, the list is not exhaustive, but it would be something to get you started with.

And also, as a Christmas bonus, Peter Sage shared a message and a free gift. You can get the link to the goodies at his Youtube link.

 

 

Meng

Brendon Burchard’s Hints to Purpose of Life

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them. – Dalai Lama

It’s a public holiday day. Instead of going out and enjoy, I am being restless. There are many things going on at the back of my head.

And yet, I can’t have a clear mind. A clear thought.

What is the purpose of my life?

And as if by sheer luck, I saw this youtube clip. Brendon Burchard shared his views on finding life purpose.

We don’t find our life purposes. We don’t seek them.

Instead we create them. We define our own life purposes.

It’s all about asking a series of simple questions: What do we like to do? What do we stand for? How best can we serve others? What is meaningful to us, personally?

Life purpose is to be fully alive. Live the moment. Live in the present. Accept and feel whatever is happening right now.

We are not just passing time. Be truly alive.

Everyone is unique. You have your own mindset, your own beliefs, your own habits.

Find your own purpose. You aren’t living other people’s lives. You aren’t living other people’s expectation, no matter how dear they are to you. It’s your life, take charge of it.

We are all connected. We don’t live a digital world. Human connections are still important, and more so when we are now constantly distracted.

To be fully alive, we must remain connected. With our loved ones. With our friends. With our communities.

Have a vision of what is it that you are trying to accomplish. What’s in store in the future – the future that you want to create.

Lack of life purpose is due to lack of vision. There’s no clarity in the vision for the dwellers who just pass time.

Have the self discipline to pursue your life purpose.

What’s your life purpose? How can you move forward to live the life that you desire – one that is full of vibrancy, love and meaning – to live your life not only just for yourself, but for your loved ones and for the world we are in?

 

Meng

Standard Chartered Marathon Singapore 2014

When you run the marathon, you run against the distance, not against the other runners and not against the time. – haile Gebrselassie

I joined the Standard Chartered Marathon Singapore 2014 last Sunday. I wanted to finish the full marathon within 6 hours, which I took about 8 hours. Am I a failure? I wanted to run all the way, instead I walked most of it. Am I a failure?

Am I a failure? End of story. Or, was it?

Instead, as I think back – there are lessons along the way.

Preparation. As usual, the first thing we must always do (before any life-changing events) is to prepare. I have to admit – I lacked of preparation. I didn’t run as much as I had wanted to. I didn’t even take my breakfast before the race. What an idiot I am.

Fundamental questions. As I was running – delusional from the sore muscles, and scorching sun along the endless route – I kept asking myself these questions:
     What am I proving here?
     To whom am I proving to?
     Is it necessary?

Many a life decision can be made simpler only if we have a crystal clear answers to the fundamental questions. Although life isn’t as easy as that, striving to find answers to those usually would lead the way for us.

Power Ranger. I saw the five rangers. Yes, you didn’t read wrong. And no, I wasn’t hallucinating. There really are five. Pink, yellow, red, green, blue. They are the usual participants in full marathons. Been seeing them running for a few years. They continuously stopped for photo-shooting with the crowd, the runners, the volunteers. Cheerfully, without any obligation. And resumed their race. And I think, they are one of the reasons why the race was much more bearable.

And yes, regardless of how slow they run, and how many stops they took to take pictures, they end up at the finishing line earlier than me.

Religion above all. Along the way, I saw a few runners performing the prayers. Which I think is awesome. Marathon is a personal achievement. To achieve personal best, you shouldn’t stop at all. And for these runners, they took the time, prepared and performed prayers.

Religions (all religions) practice tolerance and respect to one another. If only everyone are as religious as them, there would be world peace. An idealism yet to be achieved, but we are slowly moving towards there. To world peace.

Volunteers. As the runners focused on running, the volunteers worked behind the scene and around the clock to ensure that everyone is well looked after. Countless of road marshals direct the road while the volunteers keep filling the drinking water into the cups. Numerous others on standby with muscle rub cream.

There’s this incident in East Coast Park (ECP), where I took a rest from the run. I was tired and sored from running (a more correct word would be walking). A young volunteer ran to me, asking, “Are you alright, Sir?” “Do you need a rest?” “Do you need muscle rub cream?” “There’s a bench over there where you can rest.”

I was really touched by her sincere, genuine concern. Thanks!

I didn’t thank you (all the volunteers) during the race. My bad. There’s no excuse to it. However. I would really want to thank you for all the help you have given. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Safety first. The race this year was definitely much hotter than the previous year. I saw runners lying by the side of the road. I even saw one almost on the verge of puking. There’s numerous trips of ambulance along the way.

Although the usual sayings are “Push to the limit” and “Pain is temporary, pride is forever”, we should always take precaution. Safety first. Know your limit and don’t exceed it. I knew my limit, and I stayed within my limit. Although I am not happy with my timing, I am happy that I can finish the run. There is always another battle, another run next time – when I am fully prepared.

Stay safe, runners.

Integrity. As I run, I keep thinking back on the reasons why. Why am I running? Integrity in not cutting corners. There are many short cuts along the route – veterans would know.  I did cheat once (which I wasn’t proud of – but this would be a story for another day). And I made up my mind, I shall not cut corners. I shall run the full 42.195KM, regardless how long it takes, regardless of how sored are my legs, regardless of how is the weather.

And I am proud to say – I have finally finished my race – with full integrity, with pride, and a smile in my heart. I knew that, I have a second chance to redeem myself and I didn’t disappoint.

Have you ever run a “marathon” before? It doesn’t necessary be a marathon, but some challenging tasks that you are facing.

What’s your preparation?
What’s the why (fundamental questions) on doing it?
What ‘s the fun distraction along the way (there’s more to life in the journey than just the destination)?
Do you place spirituality and religion above your goals?
Are you grateful on the help given to you – from your loved ones, friends and even from strangers?
Do you know your boundary and work safely?
How do you stay focused in achieving your goals, with integrity?

 

Meng