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What’s your joy?

Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me. – Carol Burnett

Just back from a simple gathering with a university friend. We’ve known each other for almost 13 years, from the very first day when we stepped into NTU.

Time passed by rather very quickly.

We’ve been in Singapore for almost 13 years.
We’ve been working for almost 9 years.

My friend said: “I was in the shower after gym one day. As the water ran down, I was thinking, ‘What has happened to my life all these years? What did I achieve? What do I have joy in doing?’

We took things for granted. When life is comfortable, we started cruising in our lives. We stopped learning. And we stopped taking risk. We stopped breaking through our comfort zone.

We aimed for easy, instead of growth. We aimed for comfort, instead of potential. We aimed for security, instead of abundance.

When we start to live our lives on auto-pilot, it is time that we stop living. It is time when we started drifting backwards. It is time where nothing is memorable anymore.

What’s the biggest regret of people? It is not the television drama that they missed out. Or the latest smartphone that they didn’t buy.

It was on the opportunity that they didn’t take. It was on the experience they didn’t dare to chase. It was on the love they are afraid to fall on.

Life is short, regardless of how you want to think otherwise. It is this mortality that stops us on the track, and to think, “What is really important for me?

What is important for you?

Meng

Purpose Driven Activities

The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others. – Albert Schweitzer

Have you ever been to gatherings only to find it boring? Mindless talking about non-sensical stuff? And sometimes ended in a fight?

What if you could do better? What if you could orient it to the outcome that you want?

It all begins with the end in mind.

What is it that you want to achieve? What is your end goal?

Taking the gathering as an example.

Do you want it to be a happy gathering? Do you want to have the time of your life?

Do you want it to be exhilarating? Like a roller-coaster?

Do you want it as an avenue to catch up on each other’s life? To talk about the recent activities?

Make it  a habit of doing things with a purpose. Have an end goal.

It doesn’t mean that you are being unethical. As if you are going out with a friend, just because there is an advantage for you.

No, it doesn’t work that way.

Having a purpose doesn’t mean you are all-in for benefits that you are going to reap all by yourself. Having a purpose means to spend the time meaningful. To make the full use of the activities that you are doing, at that very moment of time.

By knowing what you want, you can change the flow of the gathering. And you can change the outcome from it.

Have a purpose of what is it that you want to achieve.

Meng

Maturity

There’s a beauty to wisdom and experience that cannot be faked. It’s impossible to be mature without having lived. – Amy Grant

My girlfriend says I’m immature. Don’t get me wrong. I’m a good kid. A good guy who abides the law and doing the moral and ethical stuff. And yet, it doesn’t mean that I am matured.

Age doesn’t come with maturity. Have you noticed how certain young kids are much more matured, way ahead of their age? And while certain old folks who are selfish and immature?

There are three aspects to maturity, so let’s jump in.

First. Responsibility. One has to be responsible in his action if he wants to be matured. Every action has to accounted for. Matured people would think through all the alternatives before taking an action, considering the impact of his actions. Is it the best choice of action to be taken?

Second. Sense of purpose. A matured person has a strong sense of purpose. What is his purpose in life? What is the reason of him being alive? Time on Earth is short. If one lacks purpose, he would waste his time. If he knows his purpose and chooses not to pursue it, he is not matured. Worse, he is timid.

Third. Empathy. A matured person would tune into other people’s emotion. To understand their needs and wants. Do you need to voice out your insensitive comments? Are there a better way to communicate your differences? Do they need to hear about your sarcasm?

And as an added bonus, self esteem. One has to love oneself before he or she can love another person. To be matured, one has to start from within.

Age doesn’t come with maturity. Just like any other skills in life, maturity is something we can learn, if only we put in the effort. We can achieve it with deliberate practice.

What would you do today to make yourself more matured?

 

Meng

Discipline

Live life to the fullest, and focus on the positive. – Matt Cameron

 

Discipline is an understatement.

To get what you truly want in the future, you must be disciplined enough to put in the work.

You must sow before you reap.

Looking at myself in the mirror, it leaves much, much more to desire. Certainly I can do better than this.

I need to build up my physique.

I need to become fitter.

I need to get stronger.

Therefore, I need to go the gym. I need to workout consistently.

How to become more disciplined in a time full of distraction?

You need to know your true purpose and goals. Let it fuel your desire to work towards your dreams. When it is no longer a want, it becomes a must.

Be aware of your distractions and find ways to eliminate them. No more junk food. No more sedentary lifestyle.

Make it easier to follow your dreams. If you find it difficult to exercise in the morning, don’t set yourself up for failure. You can exercise during lunchtime or after work. Whichever way works best for you.

What would it takes for you to become more disciplined in achieving your goals?

Meng

Stephen Kellogg Job Satisfaction

A good job is more than just a paycheck. A good job fosters independence and discipline, and contributes to the health of the community. A good job is a means to provide for the health and welfare of your family, to own a home, and save for retirement. – James H Douglas Jr.

 

It has been a tiring week. Involved in a lean project that lasted more than three weeks, with last week being the most hectic. Visitors flew in from various countries and we worked till late at night, learning and adapting to their teachings and advice.

In life, in work-life, we tend to see that there is no job satisfaction. Other jobs always look better than ours. Only 19% of workers in the United States have job satisfaction. Ouuch, that’s grim.

Fret not, Stephen Kellogg showed us 5 tips in finding job satisfaction. There can be satisfaction found in any job, more specifically your job.

1. Find the reason to work. Find the purpose of working. Find the enthusiasm and sustain it. Make everyday like it’s the first day of your dream job.

2. It’s better to be at the bottom of the ladder that you want to climb than on top of the ladder that you don’t want. Know your passion. Climb the ladder worth climbing. Life is too short to live other people’s wishes.

3. Grass is always green at your side. You may think that you have a bad boss, intolerable colleagues, annoying paperwork. Guess what? It isn’t any better elsewhere. Each and every work has the same problem. What should you do? Embrace it, acknowledge it, and learn to adapt to it.

4. Understand the positive impact of your work. It’s not just the money you make. It’s about the service you dish out. It’s about the enthusiasm and contagious positivity vibrating out. It’s about doing something to someone that they couldn’t even repay to you. Your rewards is the smile and the reassuring knowledge that you have left them better than you first met them.

5. Maintain your integrity and core values. Knowing that you can sleep soundly at night for you have done the right thing regardless.

And to end his TedTalk, Stephen presented a song titled “Satisfied Man”.

How can you learn from these 5 strategies and incorporate them into your work?

 

Meng