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How to avoid overwhelm

It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light. – Aristotle Onassis

Do you feel overwhelmed?

There is so much for you to learn. You have a diverse range of interest.

For me, I want to write, draw, play the piano, learn to play guitar, play badminton, learn wushu, weight-lifting. running, learn programming, learn Photoshop, learn video editing, public speaking, reading, singing.

Well, you get the picture.

There is so much to do, and yet so little time available.

You feel overwhelmed. You feel stressed. And you end up doing nothing.

Or doing everything without the feeling of fulfillment.

Does this happen to you?

The key is to understand this, We can do anything, but not everything at the same time!

Once we know this simple, key concept, life will be easier.

The key to success lies not in the things you do, but in the things that you do not do.

Decide what is it that you want to focus on doing.

What are the things that you must do now?
What are the things that are essential for your long-term goals?
What are the things that are essential and not good-to-have?

Focus on the essentials and remove all the fluff.

You still can pursue other interests, but not in the same intensity, focus, attention, time, and effort poured into it.

For me, essential things to do are writing and running. Public speaking is a good to have skill. But it is not critical for me to learn now. Playing badminton is relaxing, but I have an upcoming marathon to participate.

Prioritize well and you will live a life without unnecessary stress.

 

Meng

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A valuable lesson for a happier life

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. – Charles R. Swindoll

 

Saw this wonderful video at Meir Kay’s Facebook page.

In life there are many things fighting for our attention.

What is important to you? Prioritize them.

What is less important to you? Don’t spend so much time on them.

How about some time for beer with friends? Just go for it =)

We all have this one shot at life. Make it count.

Spend the time with those who matters. Spread the joy. Inspire others.

Meng

Anger Management

Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you. – Joel Osteen

It is human to be angry. When things don’t go according to our ways. Or the ways things going on just aren’t our preferences.

It is human nature. But then, it doesn’t mean that we have the excuse to indulge in it.

I have my own shares of anger. I lost my temper countless of time. And I don’t offer excuses to it. Instead, I look back and reflect – how could I do better?

If you want to curb on your anger, read on.

Firstly, you must have awareness. You must be aware and catch yourself when you are angry. Determine the trigger points. Is it due to the smaller irritations, that you have been ignoring?

Reframe it. See things differently. There is no universal truth, only truths as you see it. It is just your perspective. The way you see the world shapes the way you act in it.

Meditate. Meditate, meditate, meditate. If you have been reading my blog posts, meditation is a big thing. It keeps you calm and grounded. Choose a mantra that best suits you. Or simply, just sit in silence and let your thoughts pass you by.

Pause. When blood boils up in your head, stop! Pause for a while. Take deep breaths. Don’t regret over actions taken when your mind couldn’t think clearly. Anger is a very strong emotion that would cloud your rational thinking. Stop and breathe. Stop and breathe.

Setting your priorities right. Do you want to be angry on your 4 year old kids over spilling the food on the floor? Do you want to be angry on your spouse for being late to dinner because he or she is finishing their work? Know your priorities. Do you value your family more? Or the ‘clean’ floor that needs cleaning daily?

Reflect. What happens? What triggered it? How did you react? How could you manage it better next time?

I won’t say I am a perfect person. I do feel anger daily. On myself, on others, on the traffic jams. But that is not an excuse to indulge in it.

Though being angry is a human’s valid emotion, it doesn’t mean we should not minimize it. We are in our journey in being a better human being. And in this journey, we should be kind to one another, to live in harmony, and to treat each other with love and respect.

How do you curb your anger? Be kind to others, and more importantly, be kind to yourself.

 

Meng

Busy Day

I attribute my success to this – I never gave or took any excuse. – Florence  Nightingale

Looking back at my blog, I was disappointed. What a lack of update on this blog.

But I have my reasons. I was busy at work. Been working till late at night, every day.   I even supported the factory on weekends.

Everything is urgent. Everything is important. I can barely take time out for leisure, let alone this little blog of mine.

Reasons? Or is it excuses?

Not to say that I was lying. I really did work till late at night. I really did go back to work on weekends.

But what’s really important? If this blog is important to me, I will find a time out for it, regardless of what.

Determine your priority. Not that we need to do everything.

But we must do the things that matter to us.

To me, this blog is important. It chronicles my journey in self development. To see how far I have gone, and how much further can I go.

As much as we need to work hard at work, we must work harder on ourselves. In improving ourselves.

Work is just part of our lives. There are many other factors in our lives.

We shouldn’t use an excuse of “busy at work” as an excuse to excuse ourselves from our responsibilities, from our commitments, from our leisure, from our families, from our friends.

Are you busy with your work? Did you neglect other aspects in your life? If it is important for you, you will schedule time out for it. What is the one thing that you will put into your busy schedule today?

 

Meng