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How To Overcome Overwhelm

Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. – Saint Francis de Sales

Do you feel overwhelmed?

When you feel like there is just too many things happening at one time?

There’s this project that your boss wants you to finish by this weekend.

There’s the piles of documents waiting for you to be completed and submitted.

Not to forget the grocery for the week.

And the kids’ soccer practice every Tuesday evening and piano lessons on Saturday.

There’s the bills for the utilities, due tomorrow.

What would you do? How do you stop yourself from being overwhelmed? Or worse – spiraling down to burn-out, if you don’t keep it in check?

Keep things in perspective. Understand what is happening in your life right now. List down all the things that you are doing. List down all the things that you are expected to do.

Understand your life goals. What is your life purpose? What do you want to get out of your life? What kind of life experiences? What kind of activities? What would be the very things that you must do – no matter what?

Evaluate the the tasks that you are doing. Compare your tasks to your life goals. Are they in sync? What tasks can be removed? What tasks can be delegated? What tasks can be postponed?

To combat the feeling of overwhelmed, one needs to manage his or her time. To better say it, it isn’t about managing time. But to manage the tasks. Not all tasks are created equal.

With the same 24 hours allocated to the rich, to the poor, to the successful, to the not-so-successful, it is up to us to make full use of it, in a way that would propel you to the success that you have been dreaming of. In a way that you would find happiness.

All of this – without the feeling of being overwhelmed.

 

Meng

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Spheres Trick

Time is an illusion. Lunchtime doubly so. – Douglas Adams

Are things what they seem to be?

Most of the time, they are not. Don’t believe me? Have a look here :

Optical illusion governs our lives. Don’t be misled.

Always take a second look. Always question. Always keep an open mind. Maintain a good perspective.

Meng

Anger Management

Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you. – Joel Osteen

It is human to be angry. When things don’t go according to our ways. Or the ways things going on just aren’t our preferences.

It is human nature. But then, it doesn’t mean that we have the excuse to indulge in it.

I have my own shares of anger. I lost my temper countless of time. And I don’t offer excuses to it. Instead, I look back and reflect – how could I do better?

If you want to curb on your anger, read on.

Firstly, you must have awareness. You must be aware and catch yourself when you are angry. Determine the trigger points. Is it due to the smaller irritations, that you have been ignoring?

Reframe it. See things differently. There is no universal truth, only truths as you see it. It is just your perspective. The way you see the world shapes the way you act in it.

Meditate. Meditate, meditate, meditate. If you have been reading my blog posts, meditation is a big thing. It keeps you calm and grounded. Choose a mantra that best suits you. Or simply, just sit in silence and let your thoughts pass you by.

Pause. When blood boils up in your head, stop! Pause for a while. Take deep breaths. Don’t regret over actions taken when your mind couldn’t think clearly. Anger is a very strong emotion that would cloud your rational thinking. Stop and breathe. Stop and breathe.

Setting your priorities right. Do you want to be angry on your 4 year old kids over spilling the food on the floor? Do you want to be angry on your spouse for being late to dinner because he or she is finishing their work? Know your priorities. Do you value your family more? Or the ‘clean’ floor that needs cleaning daily?

Reflect. What happens? What triggered it? How did you react? How could you manage it better next time?

I won’t say I am a perfect person. I do feel anger daily. On myself, on others, on the traffic jams. But that is not an excuse to indulge in it.

Though being angry is a human’s valid emotion, it doesn’t mean we should not minimize it. We are in our journey in being a better human being. And in this journey, we should be kind to one another, to live in harmony, and to treat each other with love and respect.

How do you curb your anger? Be kind to others, and more importantly, be kind to yourself.

 

Meng