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Boss vs Leader

A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way. – John C. Maxwell


A video by Bright Side showing the differences between a boss and a leader.

A leader understands in getting the work done. However, it is not to be done by him or her alone. But by the team.

A team needs to be nurtured. To be empowered. To be entrusted to doing the right thing. To be given a chance to grow. To be allowed to fail.

Treat people fairly and they will reply in kind.

A true leader guides and mentors.

Be a good leader and see the benefits reaped from your effort.

Would you rather be a boss or a leader?





I think a role model is a mentor – someone you see on a daily basis, and you learn from them. – Denzel Washington

Read this post by Inc.

There are plenty of reasons to finding a good mentor.

A good mentor shares his or her experience.

He can point to you the pitfalls he has once encountered.

She can shorten your learning curve.

He can guide you on the correct path.

She sets you thinking in a different manner.

He can show you the culture of the new environment.

She can introduce you to the persons who could help you.

The truth is, a mentor can do a lot of things. But they can’t do your learning for you. They can’t substitute your hard work. They can’t replace your vision.

A mentor is a guide. A guardian. A friend. Just like a lighthouse, he helps shine for the lost ships. But they can’t sail the ships.

There are plenty of reasons of finding a mentor. The question is – do you have a good mentor?



Letters for Mentors

I have a mentor. I have… guides. I have a lot of guides. Not a lot, but people whose opinions I really respect and who I will turn to. – Jake Gyllenhaal

We all know the benefits of getting a mentor, or mentors for the fact.  Now that you already have a mentor, congratulations! What’s next?

What’s the use of having a mentor if you didn’t make full use of it? Mentors are not trophies that you collect and display at the display rack.

A mentor is there to guide you. He or she doesn’t spoon-feed you. How then do you make full use of this new relationship?

Write to them daily. Give an update to them on the following:

Actions that you have taken and the results shown. Mentors like people who take actions. It is not all talks and chit chat. At the end of the day, results prevail. And to get results, you need to put in the action.

Problems encountered and challenges faced. Life is not all rosy. Describe the issues that appear. It could be a problem faced today that you will solve tomorrow, or a problem today that you would seek your mentor’s advice, or even a problem that cannot be solved.

Questions for the mentors. This is where you seek valuable advice and guidance from your mentors. The questions should be based on your mentors’ experience and niche knowledge, not something that can be found easily online. Else, it would be spoon-feeding to you.

Repeat this activity daily, and see the patterns that arises. If you take this exercise seriously, you will find:
1. You are taking more and more actions. Actions lead to results. And more results will lead to more favorable results.
2. You will see a pattern. Successful people thrive from consistent patterns.
3. You will see if your are solving your problems independently or with your mentors’ help.
4. The problems you faced will be more difficult, hence you are leading a higher standard of life. You’re breaking through your comfort zone.
5. You’re giving more and more valuable questions to your mentors, and learning at a higher speed in the same time.

What would you start asking from your mentor today?




The best way a mentor can prepare another leader is to expose him or her to other great people. – John C. Maxwell


One of the best ways to learn is to imitate.

To follow the master and see how they work.

To follow steps by steps of what the mentors are doing.

To immerse in the culture, the spirit, the thinking of the experts.

Instead of re-inventing the wheels, just do the same steps.

Follow the blueprints.

I was lucky. For I don’t have one mentor. Not two.  Not three.

But practically the whole of the team.

Each person has something to teach me.

The product engineers teach me on product setup.

The process engineers teach me on the process.

The managers guide me on the presentation skills.

The technicians coach me on hands-on.

The supervisors train me on interpersonal skills when dealing with production workers.

For the first few years, as a matter of facts, up to this time, I am still a learner. A student. Learning from them.

All in all, there is no one personal mentor. Some successful people would swear on one mentor who guided them to success.

For me. I am greedy. Each and everyone can teach me something.

Teaching me of the good things I want to achieve.

Teaching me of the bad things, reminder of what I should not do.

Who would you shadow today? What is the one skills that you want to improve upon? Who can provide the skillset to you – whether they teach you or they show it?

Buried Ambition 2

Ambition may be defined as the willingness to receive any number of hits on the nose. – Wilfred Owen


Have you read my previous post on buried ambition?

By now, you would have taken stock of your life. If you are really living to your very best. If yes, let me congratulate you.

If not, fret not. This is why we are here. As a community, we support and encourage each other. And to offer advice where deem fit.

Find a supportive community to support your dreams. They can be your family, friends, colleagues, or like-minded persons.

Think of your dreams. Is it a must? Or is it just a “good to have”?

If you don’t feel that it is a total must, you are unlikely compelled to take any massive actions to pursue your dreams.

Do you have the time? Can you take out one hour a day? Or two? Or even three? To pursue on your dreams. To study and to learn about the skills needed. To do the actual work. To really dive into it.

Do you have the knowledge and skill? Do you know where you can acquire them? Any mentors or coaches that you can approach?

What is the one thing you can do right now – to keep your feet wet in the water? If that is too much, how about just one toe? Whatever it is, keep yourself in the game. Put yourself into the competition.

It may sound like a lot of work. It may sound like a tedious work.

It is. But think about it, what is the price that you are willing to pay for living your dreams? Are you contented of just day dreaming and complaining it day-by-day?

Or would you be thrilled that all your efforts have paid off and you are now living the very best, where once you thought it was only possible in your dreams?