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10 Things You Should Never Say to Depressed People

Recession is when a neighbor loses his job. Depression is when you lose yours. – Ronald Reagan

Read the post with the same title at BrightSide.

They told you what NOT to say to depressed people.

They also let you know what you SHOULD be saying instead.

Basically, there are three portions.

First,  be empathic. Let them know that you understand what they are going through.

Second, take things one step at a time. Not to rush things through. Not to sweep them under the carpet. But to deal with it one task at a time.

Third, let them know that you are there with them. They don’t have to deal with it alone. You can be there to lend a helping hand or a listening ear.

Depression is a serious matter. Help them whenever you could. You could be saving a life.




Actions and Words

Quality is not an act, it is a habit. – Aristotle


No matter what you said, actions will always speak louder than words. Prove it.

Saw my friend’s facebook status above. It is so true.

A man is never judged by his intention, but by his action.

There are so many reasons for failing to follow through on the words.

There are good-hearted people who simply couldn’t do what is promised, either by circumstances or by the lack of his willpower.

There are also hypocrites out there. Ones who said one thing, and meant another. Another type of people come into mind: Do as I preached, not as I do.

With the latter, we can only be on guard. I hope you are not one of them.

For the former, there are ways to get around it. When there’s a will, there’s a way.

Keep your promise. Make it a priority in life. The topmost value of your life. It’s either you mean it, or you don’t say it at all. People will regard you highly as an honorable man (or woman).

Speak less, listen more. Sometimes, words aren’t needed at certain situations. Lending a listening ear is more important. Listening is, some people are not aware, a powerful action to-do. Listening do speak louder than word, for people can feel your empathy towards them. And when you do speak, people will sit up to listen.

Under-promise, over-deliver. What if you can’t do what you promise? Promise less, do more. Always aim to over-achieve. People will soon realize that you are the one who would constantly out-do yourself, give the very best and give a pleasant surprise to others.

Be punctual. Or better still, be there earlier. A meeting up with friends is a promise to meet at that time. Punctuality is a sign of respect of one’s time.

These are just some of the things to do. What other actions would you do? What are the things that you complement, that you always do in your daily life?



The Big Technology Divide

The real problem is not whether machines think but whether men do. – B.F. Skinner.

Technology  helps to bridge our communication. With a simple click on the mouse, we can find all the information on the Internet. With a phone call, we can connect to our friend on the other side of the globe. With an email, we can send picture instantaneously. Although this can be done with any instant messaging services too.

With technology, comes our downfall.  We always stare at our smartphone. We say hello to our colleagues through our office communication tools, even if he or she is just a few  footsteps away. We compose email rather than to talk on phone. Don’t even think on face to face communication.

My friend gently nudged me when I was browsing through facebook at my phone while he was talking. Ouch. That was disrespectful.

Time for a reality check.

How many of us are guilty of this? You don’t have to tell me, but it is good to think through about it.

Technology helps us if we use it intelligently.

Technology would also be a cause of our doom if we let it enslaves us.

We lost the skill to communicate. To talk. To listen. To empathize. To connect.

We lost the human touch. That is so important in building up the bonding and emotional support that we human crave for.

How much time do you spend on the technological gadgets? How much time do you spend offline? How can you do more to connect to your family and loved ones face to face?

Let’s disconnect to reconnect.