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Sportsmanship

Happiness depends upon ourselves. – Aristotle

Saw this video recently.

Jack Sock showed an impressive sportsmanship, even if it costs him his game.

It is better to stand firm with integrity, than to win dishonestly.

Winning with integrity means to be able to live with your conscience.

How would you add more integrity to your life?

Meng

 

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Singapore General Election 2015

Leadership is not about the next election, it’s about the next generation. – Simon Sinek

 

The latest craze in Singapore, is none other than the General Election 2015  (GE2015).

It was the time, as someone puts it, where everyone becomes a political expert.

By now, you would know that PAP has succeeded in forming the government for this term.

What I want to talk about is – what makes a good leader?

Whether you are leading a country, a company, a community, a family, or even yourself, you need to have leadership skills.

And the best way to learn is to learn from others. To learn from other people’s strength and weakness.

What makes a good leader?

Visionary. A good leader must have a great vision. One that would move the people. To achieve the common good. One who can see the direction down the roads, months, years or decades. And to decide what is important for them and their charge.

Persuasive. Once you have a vision, you need to move the people to act upon your vision. Appeal them to their emotion. Fascinate them with the vision. Rationalize with them on the facts. No man is an island. We all work together. The only way we can get our visions accomplished is through team work.

Integrity. A good leader must have the highest integrity. To know what is right (legally, ethically, morally, socially) from wrong. To know is not enough. He must act upon it. To act is not enough. He must lead the way, to set an example.

There are many more skills for a good leader. But for now, let’s focus on these first.

How well do you fare in these categories? I am sure that you would have done good.

And I believe, there is always room for improvement, regardless of how good you are right now.

Regardless of how good you are, there is always room for improvement. Think about it.

Let’s focus on the three categories. How well would you do? Jot them down.

Now, read through the rally speeches from each of the politicians. Suspend your judgment on who is your favorite politicians.

Judge only from their rallies, on their visions, persuasion and integrity. Jot down your findings – both positive and negative.

And reflect and compare. How well do you fare, against them?

You may say, “It’s not fair! They are veterans. They make a living from politics. Of course they would do better.

I hear you – but this exercise is to improve on your visions, persuasion and integrity. What can you learn from this? The fruits of this exercise benefits you, and you alone.

And perhaps your family.

And your community.

And your company.

And your country.

Well, you will never know your contribution to the world, when you start to have a vision.

 

Meng

Standard Chartered Marathon Singapore 2014

When you run the marathon, you run against the distance, not against the other runners and not against the time. – haile Gebrselassie

I joined the Standard Chartered Marathon Singapore 2014 last Sunday. I wanted to finish the full marathon within 6 hours, which I took about 8 hours. Am I a failure? I wanted to run all the way, instead I walked most of it. Am I a failure?

Am I a failure? End of story. Or, was it?

Instead, as I think back – there are lessons along the way.

Preparation. As usual, the first thing we must always do (before any life-changing events) is to prepare. I have to admit – I lacked of preparation. I didn’t run as much as I had wanted to. I didn’t even take my breakfast before the race. What an idiot I am.

Fundamental questions. As I was running – delusional from the sore muscles, and scorching sun along the endless route – I kept asking myself these questions:
     What am I proving here?
     To whom am I proving to?
     Is it necessary?

Many a life decision can be made simpler only if we have a crystal clear answers to the fundamental questions. Although life isn’t as easy as that, striving to find answers to those usually would lead the way for us.

Power Ranger. I saw the five rangers. Yes, you didn’t read wrong. And no, I wasn’t hallucinating. There really are five. Pink, yellow, red, green, blue. They are the usual participants in full marathons. Been seeing them running for a few years. They continuously stopped for photo-shooting with the crowd, the runners, the volunteers. Cheerfully, without any obligation. And resumed their race. And I think, they are one of the reasons why the race was much more bearable.

And yes, regardless of how slow they run, and how many stops they took to take pictures, they end up at the finishing line earlier than me.

Religion above all. Along the way, I saw a few runners performing the prayers. Which I think is awesome. Marathon is a personal achievement. To achieve personal best, you shouldn’t stop at all. And for these runners, they took the time, prepared and performed prayers.

Religions (all religions) practice tolerance and respect to one another. If only everyone are as religious as them, there would be world peace. An idealism yet to be achieved, but we are slowly moving towards there. To world peace.

Volunteers. As the runners focused on running, the volunteers worked behind the scene and around the clock to ensure that everyone is well looked after. Countless of road marshals direct the road while the volunteers keep filling the drinking water into the cups. Numerous others on standby with muscle rub cream.

There’s this incident in East Coast Park (ECP), where I took a rest from the run. I was tired and sored from running (a more correct word would be walking). A young volunteer ran to me, asking, “Are you alright, Sir?” “Do you need a rest?” “Do you need muscle rub cream?” “There’s a bench over there where you can rest.”

I was really touched by her sincere, genuine concern. Thanks!

I didn’t thank you (all the volunteers) during the race. My bad. There’s no excuse to it. However. I would really want to thank you for all the help you have given. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Safety first. The race this year was definitely much hotter than the previous year. I saw runners lying by the side of the road. I even saw one almost on the verge of puking. There’s numerous trips of ambulance along the way.

Although the usual sayings are “Push to the limit” and “Pain is temporary, pride is forever”, we should always take precaution. Safety first. Know your limit and don’t exceed it. I knew my limit, and I stayed within my limit. Although I am not happy with my timing, I am happy that I can finish the run. There is always another battle, another run next time – when I am fully prepared.

Stay safe, runners.

Integrity. As I run, I keep thinking back on the reasons why. Why am I running? Integrity in not cutting corners. There are many short cuts along the route – veterans would know.  I did cheat once (which I wasn’t proud of – but this would be a story for another day). And I made up my mind, I shall not cut corners. I shall run the full 42.195KM, regardless how long it takes, regardless of how sored are my legs, regardless of how is the weather.

And I am proud to say – I have finally finished my race – with full integrity, with pride, and a smile in my heart. I knew that, I have a second chance to redeem myself and I didn’t disappoint.

Have you ever run a “marathon” before? It doesn’t necessary be a marathon, but some challenging tasks that you are facing.

What’s your preparation?
What’s the why (fundamental questions) on doing it?
What ‘s the fun distraction along the way (there’s more to life in the journey than just the destination)?
Do you place spirituality and religion above your goals?
Are you grateful on the help given to you – from your loved ones, friends and even from strangers?
Do you know your boundary and work safely?
How do you stay focused in achieving your goals, with integrity?

 

Meng