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What’s your joy?

Only I can change my life. No one┬ácan do it for me. – Carol Burnett

Just back from a simple gathering with a university friend. We’ve known each other for almost 13 years, from the very first day when we stepped into NTU.

Time passed by rather very quickly.

We’ve been in Singapore for almost 13 years.
We’ve been working for almost 9 years.

My friend said: “I was in the shower after gym one day. As the water ran down, I was thinking, ‘What has happened to my life all these years? What did I achieve? What do I have joy in doing?’

We took things for granted. When life is comfortable, we started cruising in our lives. We stopped learning. And we stopped taking risk. We stopped breaking through our comfort zone.

We aimed for easy, instead of growth. We aimed for comfort, instead of potential. We aimed for security, instead of abundance.

When we start to live our lives on auto-pilot, it is time that we stop living. It is time when we started drifting backwards. It is time where nothing is memorable anymore.

What’s the biggest regret of people? It is not the television drama that they missed out. Or the latest smartphone that they didn’t buy.

It was on the opportunity that they didn’t take. It was on the experience they didn’t dare to chase. It was on the love they are afraid to fall on.

Life is short, regardless of how you want to think otherwise. It is this mortality that stops us on the track, and to think, “What is really important for me?

What is important for you?

Meng

Standard Chartered Marathon 2016

I loved the feeling of freedom in running, the fresh air, the feeling that the only person I’m competing with is me. – Wilma Rudolph

It’s Standard Marathon Singapore 2016 tomorrow. I’ve registered for Full Marathon but decided not to run.

Had fever last weekend and still recuperating. Still coughing and feeling lethargic.

My friends said, “Go run! Don’t quit! Don’t give up!”

My family said, “Don’t run! Health and safety first!”

Conflicting suggestions. Externally and internally.

My ego wanted to run. But my health said otherwise.

Living a good life is about choosing your battles wisely. You don’t have to step into every single battle. If the odds are against you, just step back. Admit defeat and come back another day.

If you are considering extreme sports, always take precaution. Your health and safety comes first, no matter what. Even if your competitive nature pushes you to the limit.

Smart people consider their limits and act wisely. Ignorant people ignore their limits recklessly.

For now, I would rest well. And sign up for another run another day.

 

Meng

 

 

Mentor

I think a role model is a mentor – someone you see on a daily basis, and you learn from them. – Denzel Washington

Read this post by Inc.

There are plenty of reasons to finding a good mentor.

A good mentor shares his or her experience.

He can point to you the pitfalls he has once encountered.

She can shorten your learning curve.

He can guide you on the correct path.

She sets you thinking in a different manner.

He can show you the culture of the new environment.

She can introduce you to the persons who could help you.

The truth is, a mentor can do a lot of things. But they can’t do your learning for you. They can’t substitute your hard work. They can’t replace your vision.

A mentor is a guide. A guardian. A friend. Just like a lighthouse, he helps shine for the lost ships. But they can’t sail the ships.

There are plenty of reasons of finding a mentor. The question is – do you have a good mentor?

 

Meng