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4 Steps to Stop Reacting

Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you. – Thomas Jefferson

I was reading a book the other day on start taking actions.

One of the topics discussed was on how to stop reacting. You know, about those daily incidents that you are frustrated with. And like a volcano eruption, you lashed out to anyone within your vicinity. It could be driving in a jam-packed highway. Or dealing with your cranky toddlers.

We all know that we need to respond and not react.

Theory sounds simple, but how do we do that?

Someone proposed a four step methodology.

First, stop doing. That’s right, you have thoughts running in your mind, telling you to do things “automatically”. Realise that these actions are not the optimal actions. That is why it is crucial to first stop doing anything. It is wiser to risk being perceived to be staying stunned like an idiot, than to lash out and become a jerk.

Secondly, take a deep breath. Breathing is calming. Breathing is a main component in yoga. Just breathe. Breathe deeply. Notice how your diaphragm moves. Notice how your belly move. Take one, take two, take a couple more. Make sure you are taking your breaths slowly.

Thirdly, be aware of how you are feeling. Right now. What emotions are you having? Don’t make any rash actions when you are angry. We are creatures blessed with a gift of thinking. Use it wisely. Don’t let your emotions dictate you.

Finally, think of happy thoughts. Maybe it’s your spouse. Maybe it’s your children. Maybe it’s your winning in the local sports. Maybe it’s just chilling out in your last vacation. Whatever it is, just think back to happier thoughts. Be calm and serene. You can not be both happy and angry at the same time.

How would you incorporate these 4 simple steps in your life right now?


Trifactor for Success

Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts. – Winston Churchill


What do you really need to be successful?

We are all logical people. Logical mind should be it. We think and analyze objectively. We understand the situation, we gauge the importance, we evaluate the alternative solutions, and we study the outcomes.

And yet the results fall short. What can’t a logical brain do?

We need to have the resolve. The passion. We need the emotions to carry on. Persistence is not something you will upon with your mind power. It comes from the heart. Passion is the keyword, a feeling that each and everyone needs to be strive in this brave new world. It always has, and always will be. History dictates it that the world is run by the most persistent and passionate persons.

And still, results do come and go. It is random. What else is lacking?

Have you heard of gut feeling? You need to trust your hunch. To tap into the mysterious power of instincts. Even when your logical mind has analyzed it, and your emotion is running wild with passion, you need to proceed with caution if your sixth sense is hesitant of it. Your subconscious mind may have picked up signals that have yet been noticeable to you.

The mind, the heart, the gut. If you were to choose one, which one would you choose? A small mind would choose either one. A brave soul would choose all three.

We are much bigger than that. Why limit yourself? Why play at other people’s field? Why not choose your own setting that would give you the most competitive advantage, to win in the game?

How would you align yourself to your goals, making full use of your mind, your heart, and your gut feeling to carve success in your life?