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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama


Ever felt frustrated at work?

Ever felt frustrated at learning?

Ever felt frustrated in a relationship?

Dissatisfaction comes from unmet expectation.

The greater the disparity between expectation and reality, the greater the dissatisfaction. The greater the heartache.

Dissatisfaction can be a source of motivation to work harder, but that would be a topic for another time.

To live a happy life, first we must remove unrealistic expectation.  Expectation of how life “should be”.

Especially if the expectation is very unrealistic.

A happy life requires us to review our lives. To determine what is important. Learning life goal, knowing your strength, knowing what you need to know, is to determine what expectation you can set in your life.

Knowing where you are right now (your starting point), knowing where you want to go (your end point), and knowing how you want to go, all these set a more realistic outlook of your way of life.

Dissatisfaction comes from closed communication. Be more open and have an honest communication. It takes the parties to  understand one another, to know each aspiration and to find a common ground to work with.

How do you resolve dissatisfaction in you life? Live a happier life!


New Year Resolution

Let our New Year’s resolution be this: we will be there for one another as fellow members of humanity, in the finest sense of the word. – Goran Persson

It has been days since we celebrated New Year. Are we too late to write down our resolutions now?

Of course not. When there’s a will, there is never a time too late.

But first, let’s see. Why so many people set their new year resolution only to see it fail, year after year after year?

I know how it feels, for I have fallen the same.

But why? Why do we fail?

Because the goal is not a must. It’s something that is good to have, but not something that we must have. It’s good to be rich, but we are still living comfortably. Why bother working for an extra 1 to 2 hours daily when we can still pay our bill?

A new year resolution set based on other people’s expectation. You think studying harder would make your parents happy. You think getting slimmer would make your spouse happy.

It’s just too much of a hassle. Changing habits take time. And effort. It’s tough to put on the running shoes, and go for a run, when there’s a nice drama showing on the TV. Especially if it’s cloudy and going to rain any moment now.

It’s a very big difference with our habits. It’s a big jump from being couch potato to a gym enthusiast. From a shy guy to an outspoken stage-controlling speaker. From an illiterate to a literature best-selling author. The gap alone is overwhelming for us to even begin taking the first step.

You’re just going through the motion. It’s just a process that everyone is doing. If everyone’s doing it, you do it as well. Even if you don’t understand how it would help you. You just do it, for the sake of doing it.

You never believe in yourself. You don’t think it would ever work. You’ll just put in on paper, while thinking it would never work. Why bother? Why put in the effort? Or, you may think to yourself, I’ll do it even if I know it won’t work.

You just couldn’t give up your current lifestyle. How do you expect to wake up at 5am if you still prefer clubbing till 2am? How do you want to go out running, if you still want to watch movies at the same time? How are you going to spend the time reading, when all you thinking about is the good time out window-shopping?

Take stock of how you have been setting your new year resolution all these years. How efficient have they become? What went right? And what went wrong? How much distraction in your life? And how they affect your goals? Think through and you will find the answers within you.



Oz The Great and Powerful

Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The movie was on Channel 5 last Sunday. It’s a story of a con-man who was selfish and greedy and finally realized the prophecy of becoming the Wizard of Oz.

There are many memorable moment in this movie – well, at least to me. Just sharing three of them here.

Glinda: I knew it all along that you had it.
Oz: Greatness?
Glinda: No, better than that – goodness.
In our quest to become someone of a true potential, someone to rule the world, someone to be respected, someone with success – we should not forget our true selves. Someone with goodness in our heart.

Oz: I may not be the wizard you have expected. But I may just be the wizard that you need.
In life, we have expectation of how we should live our life. Expectation of what kind of a person we should be. Expectation of how things work. While expectation fuels our aspiration, the reality may be totally different. Something that we need may be wildly different – all because we have never thought of its possibility. Have an open mind.

Oz: I may not be the real wizard.
Glinda: Yes, but they don’t know.
It’ all about white lies.  Give others inspiration, give others motivation, give others hope – give others the means to stand up and face another sunrise.

Have you watched this movie? What is the most memorable scene for you?