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GRIT

Over time, grit is what separates fruitful lives from aimlessness. –  John Ortberg

According to the book Grit to Great, written by Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval, success depends on the acronym of G.R.I.T..

G : Guts. You must be courageous in facing your challenges. You should not back down upon the first sight of obstacles. Be brave and take the bull by its horn.

R : Resilience. When things get tough, well, you just have to keep on going. Persevere on. One will always fail. Success belongs to those brush it off, learn from it and stand up once again.

I : Initiatives. Be a self-starter. Don’t wait until you are told to do something. Don’t always do the same thing. Be creative. View the problems with a new pair of lens, with a new mindset.

T : Tenacity. You have to be focused. Focus on the problem on hand. Don’t get lost in every and any other happenings around you. Stay focused and get the things done.

How do you apply G.R.I.T. in your life?

 

Meng

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The Success Factor

It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through. – Zig Ziglar

What do you think would be the factor to success?

Is it grand idea? Loads of motivation? Bottomless cash?

How many people do you know with grand idea? How many of them fail?

How many people do you know who is always rah rah? How many of them fail?

How many rich people do you know? How many of them fail?

Those are good to have. But they are not the X factor for success.

Success comes from one single point. Ability to follow through.

In another word, persistence. Having the grit to continue.

Grind day in, and day out.

Never falls back. Never back down.

When obstacles knock you down, or hit you sideway, you will still stand up and march forward.

Have the courage to stand tall. And to smile.

In spite of sweat, tear and blood.

What is your follow through? How can you do it?

Meng

The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living? – Bob Marley

I went to watch this show once with a dear friend of mine. And now it’s showing on TV. How time flies.

To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life.

We’ve all been living our lives like Walter. A normal life, yet we yearn and dream of spectacular fireworks.

Nothing out of the ordinary, but we all knew that we are destined for more.

Unless we step  out of our comfort zone, it would forever remain a dreams to us.

We must have the courage to pursue what makes us alive.

With actions, the boundary between dreams and reality will be fuzzy.

With beliefs, dreams will become reality.

It’s good to daydream, especially when our lives are mundane. But there is more to our lives than to just daydream.

We have the magic within us to make our dreams come true.

The question is, would you take the plunge?

Meng

Facing Your Fear

To be courageous is not to be devoid of fear, but to act in spite of fear. – Anonymous

 

I posted in Instagram about facing my fear.

If you know me personally, you would have known that I am not fond of heights. I’m afraid of heights. I am terrified with heights.

So, I naturally would avoid any places that is high up on the ground, even those places with scenic view.

And to cut a long story short, a casual conversation with my colleagues led me to cross over the bridge on one fine evening.

Talking about it casually and to really facing it- they are two totally different things.

I was like a macho, I took a few steps, maybe ten, maybe twenty into the bridge when fear suddenly appear. Mind you, it wasn’t like those wooden, solid bridge. It was those steel bridge, where you can look down. And when I say down, it is more than 10 meters, at least.

The very first thing I did was to walk back to safety. I chickened out.

I thought to myself, I’m a quitter. I can’t face my fear. I will be timid, all my life. Even if I quit, noone will know. I didn’t publicly announce it. So I should just walk away.

But there’s something inside me saying, do you really want to quit, again?

It was at that moment of time, I saw a boy strolling with his mom.

If he can do it, why can’t I?

I breathe in, breathe out. Breathe in, breathe out. What was 5 minutes of breathing seems like an eternity.

Then I asked myself this, what reasons do I have to allow myself to cross over the bridge?

Well..

It is just 200 meters. It is just a short distance. A very short distance.

Just walk, look up straight. Look up. If you don’t look down, you  won’t feel scared.

There are no runners or joggers. The bridge won’t swing violently.

The bridge has been there for years. It was broken, and it won’t break down today.

OK. I took another deep breath in, and took my first step into the bridge. One step led to another step. Before I knew it, I was a few steps into the bridge, at the first turn.

Was I courageous at that point of time, where I didn’t feel any fear at all? NO! I still felt fear. Very afraid.

But I had come so far. Hold on the rail, and take a deep breath, I told myself. And then continue to take a few steps. My hands were sweaty and my heart was beating fast.

At the end of the bridge, my left palm was all black, because I kept holding on to the bridge.

The actual bridge is 2KM in length, but for that day, that short section of 200 meters was more than enough for me.

You may be thinking..

10 meters high wasn’t that tall. Yes, it is nothing to you but it was a big deal to me. I was too afraid and that was the first time I took the bridge.

Did I cure my fear of height? No, I know that fear would come back to me. Even if I did it before, my fear would come back again.

To overcome your fear, you have to keep facing it, until it becomes a natural occurrence to you. Keep facing it daily until it desensitize you.

What’s next? Well, my immediate goal is to repeat this short section of the bridge, without holding on to it. Once comfortable, I would extend the length to cover the whole bridge. Then, the finale would be to attempt the HSBC Treetop walk at McRitchie Reservoir.

What is your fear? What one thing do you do to lessen its grip on you?

 

Meng

Act on It

I stand for freedom of expression, doing what you believe in, and going after your dreams. – Madonna Ciccone

 

It seems that everyone is chasing after their dreams. Chasing after their happiness.

A friend has started up her own business.

Another friend has just bought a newly-launched condo.

A friend was keen on going on blind date.

It seems that everyone is chasing after their dreams. Chasing after their happiness.

And what have I done? It seems that I have been doing nothing.

Am I moving closer to my dreams?

Am I staying stationary and being drifted away?

Or am I even heading in the opposite direction, moving further apart from mine?

If you are not consciously moving towards your dream, you would be moving further back.

Identify your dreams in life. Choose the top three.

Instead of beating around the bush, chasing everything under the sun, choose only three that would make the most impact. The three that would make your heart beats. The three that would make you jump out of your bed, every single morning.

Know the price that you have to pay to achieve your dreams. What are the things that you must do? What are the things that you must not do?

Knowing the price is as important as resolving to do it.

I am stuck in my dreams, not because of what I do not know.

I am stuck in my dreams, because I do not courageously pursue what I know. I know the step 1, step 2, step 3. I know what I should be doing.

And yet, I am still at step 0. Why? Fear stops me.

How far are you from your dreams? Know your dreams, know what you have to do, and have the courage to do it.

 

Meng

Courage

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. – Franklin D. Roosevelt

Read somewhere that courage is not the absence of fear.

Courage is to act in spite of fear.

There are two kinds of fear – real and imaginary.

Real fear is those that could bring bodily harm, or even death. Fear like fear of falling, fear of facing a lion face-to-face, fear of facing a knife-welding robber.

Imaginary fear is those that is concocted in our mind. Fear like fear of public speaking, fear of asking the girl out, fear of chihuahua biting our legs.

Whether it is real or imaginary fear, there is a way to face it.

To face it and be courageous.

The remedy is just one – to take action.

Take action in spite of fear.

Speak in spite of fear.

Ask the gal out in spite of fear.

Smile at the dog in spite of fear.

When you confront fear face-to-face, it is liberating. There is this sense of freedom. That you could take on the world.

It is easier said than done.

I truly agree. I have fears of my own.

Too many to count with my fingers and toes.

Yet, the only way to confront them, to free yourself, is to take action.

Once you have taken the first step, the subsequent ones would be easier to swallow.

Once you have taken the first step, the momentum would make it easier to follow through.

Once you have taken the first step, you would be guided by experience on how to continue on.

Just act.

Take action. Now.

Without delay.

What is your one (imaginary) fear that you can take action right now to subdue it? Keeping in mind that safety is always a top priority in whatever it is that you are pursuing.

 

Meng