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Letters for Mentors

I have a mentor. I have… guides. I have a lot of guides. Not a lot, but people whose opinions I really respect and who I will turn to. – Jake Gyllenhaal

We all know the benefits of getting a mentor, or mentors for the fact.  Now that you already have a mentor, congratulations! What’s next?

What’s the use of having a mentor if you didn’t make full use of it? Mentors are not trophies that you collect and display at the display rack.

A mentor is there to guide you. He or she doesn’t spoon-feed you. How then do you make full use of this new relationship?

Write to them daily. Give an update to them on the following:

Actions that you have taken and the results shown. Mentors like people who take actions. It is not all talks and chit chat. At the end of the day, results prevail. And to get results, you need to put in the action.

Problems encountered and challenges faced. Life is not all rosy. Describe the issues that appear. It could be a problem faced today that you will solve tomorrow, or a problem today that you would seek your mentor’s advice, or even a problem that cannot be solved.

Questions for the mentors. This is where you seek valuable advice and guidance from your mentors. The questions should be based on your mentors’ experience and niche knowledge, not something that can be found easily online. Else, it would be spoon-feeding to you.

Repeat this activity daily, and see the patterns that arises. If you take this exercise seriously, you will find:
1. You are taking more and more actions. Actions lead to results. And more results will lead to more favorable results.
2. You will see a pattern. Successful people thrive from consistent patterns.
3. You will see if your are solving your problems independently or with your mentors’ help.
4. The problems you faced will be more difficult, hence you are leading a higher standard of life. You’re breaking through your comfort zone.
5. You’re giving more and more valuable questions to your mentors, and learning at a higher speed in the same time.

What would you start asking from your mentor today?

Meng

 

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The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living? – Bob Marley

I went to watch this show once with a dear friend of mine. And now it’s showing on TV. How time flies.

To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life.

We’ve all been living our lives like Walter. A normal life, yet we yearn and dream of spectacular fireworks.

Nothing out of the ordinary, but we all knew that we are destined for more.

Unless we step  out of our comfort zone, it would forever remain a dreams to us.

We must have the courage to pursue what makes us alive.

With actions, the boundary between dreams and reality will be fuzzy.

With beliefs, dreams will become reality.

It’s good to daydream, especially when our lives are mundane. But there is more to our lives than to just daydream.

We have the magic within us to make our dreams come true.

The question is, would you take the plunge?

Meng

Keep Pushing

Responsibility for learning belongs to the student, regardless of age. – Robert Martin

Have you ever worked out in the gym? Especially weight lifting?

You would notice that in the beginning, you would get refined muscles for a certain weight. With the same weight over time, you would not get the same results. Worse, your muscles would decline.

Why is this happening? It is still the same weights that you are doing.

It is a condition called as plateau. It seems like there is no progress despite the same efforts put in.

That’s why, the coaches suggest changing of the rhythm, the tempo, and the weight. To stretch your muscles, and in maintaining it or developing it further.

In life, just like in weight lifting, we would face plateau in any endeavor that we pursue. We may feel bored. We may feel restless. Especially if it has become a routine. A mundane routine, that is.

The only way out is to grow out of the comfort zone. Continuously challenge yourself. Aim higher, hit harder. Challenge brings progress. Challenge your assumptions. Question your beliefs, especially on your limitations.

If we don’t progress, we digress. We won’t be staying stagnant. It would be worse if others took the opportunity and continued progressing, leaving us behind in dust.

Keep on pushing and never give up.

Mid life crisis. Mid career crisis. Unfulfilled relationship.

You heard about it. Think about it. Why? Due to boredom. Due to lack of enthusiasm.

It’s all about plateau.

Change the paradigm. Life is meant to excel. Grow beyond your wildest dream.

What area in your life that you are feeling stagnant at this very moment? What ways can you think about in changing it? How would you challenge it?

Plateau is not the end of the world. Instead, it is a timely reminder that you can aim higher. It shows you the lack in that particular area, things to look into, to question – how could you do better?

Meng

Adam Braun: The Five Phrases That Can Change Your Life

Happiness consists in giving, and in serving others. – Henry Drummond

Adam Braun is the founder and CEO of Pencils of Promise, a non-profit organization that is committed to build schools and provide education to the needy children in the developing countries.

In his TEDTALK presentation, he shares with us the five phrases that literally change his life, and hopefully us as well.

1. Get out of your comfort zone.

2. Challenge your assumptions, so that you can find your truths.

3. Speak the language of the person you seek to become.

4. Make the little decisions with your head, and the big ones with your heart.

5. How can you create the most positive impact on as many lives as possible?

Behind each phrase is a personal story of Adam, where he has this enlightenment of how his life would unfold. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

These are the things that we usually take for granted. Only when we are ready to change, would all these take the spotlights and we are like, “Aha, why didn’t I think of it sooner?”

What would be your life-changing phrases?

 

Meng

Frog in boiling water

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. – George Bernard Shaw

I have been learning the breast-stroke swimming style (a.k.a. the frog style) for some time now. And I am very interested in anything related to frogs.

There’s one story about frog as follows:

If you would to throw a frog in a boiling water, it would have jumped out in the very first instance.

If you were to place a frog in a cool water, it would not be doing anything.

As you gradually increase its temperature, it would feels the slight discomfort but will remain there.

When the temperature has been raised to a boiling point, it would be too late for the frog to do anything.

It’s a story shared by many.

It’s a story of being complacent and comfortable in our surrounding.

The changes may be subtle and we are oblivious to it.

Till it becomes a tipping point, and we are all caught off-guard.

What one thing that you feel like you are in the slow-boiling pot situation? What one action can you take today to anticipate the change?

Don’t be like the frog in the boiling pot. Take action today and carve your future!

 

Meng

Making a bald statement

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. – Neale Donald Walsch

It has been a month since I have my head shaved.

Yup,  one month since I went bald.

If you knew me, personally, you would know that I would keep my hair long. It’s a fashion statement for me.

Though I really don’t have fashion sense.

Anyway, there are plenty of things to realize from this episode.

One can say and talk till the cow come home. But the real results come from action.

I had said it many times I wanted to experience what it’s like to be bald. At least for a couple of years.

After all the bragging, I really did feel regret when the barber  shaved off side of my head. Despite the repetitious reassurance from the barber.

He must be thinking,”You asked for it, now you wanna cry over it?”

For the record, I didn’t cry.

Well, almost.

What’s my friends’ and colleagues’ first reaction?

“Did you participate for Hair for Hope?” I was too late for it, so nope. But I had always wanted to do it.

Shocked. They were worried sick of what happened to me.

Was I under intense pressure? Depressed?

Rest assured, I am not doing anything foolish. I am fine.

Laugh. Practically roll on the floor,laughing. Laughed till the tears fall.

After the confused two days or so, things started to go back to normal.

Now, after a month, everyone has accepted me for who I am, for now. With slightly longer hair.

What did I really learn?

I learn to break out of my comfort zone.

That criticism can be annoying and hurtful. But this too shall pass.

That people can adapt real fast.

That nothing is permanent. A joke on first day can mean nothing on the next day.

That being brave is something attainable. Seek the courage from within.

Especially if you have a strong reason behind it.

Speaking of which, I hadn’t really tell you why I am doing this?

Because I wanted to challenge myself. To see if I can pull this feat.

To you, if may mean nothing. Getting bald is a normal occurrence.

To me, it means I had overcome a fear and expand my comfort zone.

What is the one thing that you can challenge your comfort zone? Right now, right here – today?

 

Meng