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Persuasion

People are influenced most by those they trust and admire and believe care for them. – Brendon Burchard

Persuasion is an important skill in life. Daily interaction requires us to influence others to follow our advice.

Influencing our kids to eat more vegetables and enjoy school life.

Influencing the girl whom we like that we are their best potential for soulmate.

Influencing your boss and colleague that your proposal would bring the most revenue for the company with the limited budget.

Things that you want to achieve but you need the help from others. How many times have you been successful? Would you want to be better in this skill?

How then, can we be persuasive? According to Brendon Burchard, there are three things we can look into.

First. Presence. Be present.  Be fully engaged with the person you are interacting with. It improves the rapport between you and the person. Don’t be physically drained or emotionally checked out.

Second. Clarity. Know where you want to go and where you are right now. Be clear of the alternatives and narrow down the options to a feasible few. Understand your point of view and the views of those you want to persuade and know the common ground.

Third. Old new argument. Know what is the current situation. What is the pain point? What is lacking? And then, what would be the ideal future state? What would be fantastic if they follow your advice? What improvement would they get? What are the advantages?

How can you be more persuasive today?

 

Meng

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Time to Think

A good decision is based on knowledge and not on numbers. – Plato

When you face a difficult situation, and you need to decide on your course of action; do you often feel frustrated that you couldn’t think rationally?

There’s a few steps to think with clarity.

Stop. Clear your mind of all thoughts. Calm down. Take a walk. Meditate. Breathe in, breathe out. Ensure that you are not influenced by any emotions when you are doing your thinking.

Time. Allocate the time to think. Do not feel rushed to make a decision. Allow yourself ample time to think. When you feel rushed, you are causing stress to your mind. And your mind doesn’t work well with undue stress.

Note. Write it down. Writing it down gives you the clarity. You are able to see the connection clearly. You are not taxing your brain to remember all the complex “what-if”s or possible outcomes. Instead, you are using your brain to think, when you can see all the outcomes clearly on the notes.

These are some simple steps to think clearly. It doesn’t need to be complicated. Choose a simpler method.

Are you frustrated of certain decisions that you find it hard to make? Try the steps above and see if they could help you better.

 

Meng

Find the Different Skate

Clarity affords focus. – Thomas Leonard

Can you find the different skate? This is one of the more difficult puzzle for me.

Simply because, I have no ideas what is it that I am looking for.

Just as in life, we want to make changes in our lives. For the better.

But if we do not have the clarity, of what is it that we are changing for, we will forever be grappling in the dark.

Be enlightened. Know what is it that you are looking to change.

Know your dreams. Know your goals.

Chase after your success!

 

Meng

Brendon Burchard’s Hints to Purpose of Life

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them. – Dalai Lama

It’s a public holiday day. Instead of going out and enjoy, I am being restless. There are many things going on at the back of my head.

And yet, I can’t have a clear mind. A clear thought.

What is the purpose of my life?

And as if by sheer luck, I saw this youtube clip. Brendon Burchard shared his views on finding life purpose.

We don’t find our life purposes. We don’t seek them.

Instead we create them. We define our own life purposes.

It’s all about asking a series of simple questions: What do we like to do? What do we stand for? How best can we serve others? What is meaningful to us, personally?

Life purpose is to be fully alive. Live the moment. Live in the present. Accept and feel whatever is happening right now.

We are not just passing time. Be truly alive.

Everyone is unique. You have your own mindset, your own beliefs, your own habits.

Find your own purpose. You aren’t living other people’s lives. You aren’t living other people’s expectation, no matter how dear they are to you. It’s your life, take charge of it.

We are all connected. We don’t live a digital world. Human connections are still important, and more so when we are now constantly distracted.

To be fully alive, we must remain connected. With our loved ones. With our friends. With our communities.

Have a vision of what is it that you are trying to accomplish. What’s in store in the future – the future that you want to create.

Lack of life purpose is due to lack of vision. There’s no clarity in the vision for the dwellers who just pass time.

Have the self discipline to pursue your life purpose.

What’s your life purpose? How can you move forward to live the life that you desire – one that is full of vibrancy, love and meaning – to live your life not only just for yourself, but for your loved ones and for the world we are in?

 

Meng

Happy Valentine’s Day

We can only learn to love by loving. – Iris Murdoch

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Tony Robbins, and his gal, Sage, recently hosted a Spreecast chat (click on the link for the webcast). In which, they answered questions regarding relationships.

A few take-aways from the webcast:

Relationship changes start with you. You have the power to decide and change its direction. Take 100% responsibility.

Decide what kind of person you would like to attract. Write down the list. Clarity rules.

From the list, decide and determine to become the person who would attract your dream gal/guy.

Always be in good state. A good man can do mean things when in bad state. It is all in your mind.

There are many more, but I’ll leave it to you on their 1 hour-long webcast. Have fun!

What would be your take-aways from the webcast?

 

Meng