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How to Start a Brand-New Chapter at Any Age

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. – George Bernard Shaw

Read an article posted at Inc. with the above title.

That gets me thinking.

It is obvious that one will encounter failures at some stages in their lives. It is also obvious that some will get back on their feet (like phoenix rises from ashes)  and some will fade into darkness of obscurity.

What would one do when one gets stuck? The obvious answer would be to get unstuck.

At any stage of life, do an audit. A life audit. What are you currently doing? What is your life goal? How far away are you from your goals? Be honest and objective in answering these.

Give yourself the permission to forgive, and move on. It doesn’t help you to keep on hanging to the past. The past is not indicative of your future. Your past may lead you to your present. But you have the power to change your future. if you would take actions in your present.

Know what needs to change, and just put in the freaking hard work. You need to know which direction you need to take, and how fast you need to travel. Nothing substitute the work and effort you put in. But you can’t just blindly run without knowing where you are heading to.

Know that it is never too late to start all over again. If you are to start today. You may have wasted decades of your life, please don’t waste any more days. Live your life worth remembering and celebrating for.

What would you do today?


Letters for Mentors

I have a mentor. I have… guides. I have a lot of guides. Not a lot, but people whose opinions I really respect and who I will turn to. – Jake Gyllenhaal

We all know the benefits of getting a mentor, or mentors for the fact.  Now that you already have a mentor, congratulations! What’s next?

What’s the use of having a mentor if you didn’t make full use of it? Mentors are not trophies that you collect and display at the display rack.

A mentor is there to guide you. He or she doesn’t spoon-feed you. How then do you make full use of this new relationship?

Write to them daily. Give an update to them on the following:

Actions that you have taken and the results shown. Mentors like people who take actions. It is not all talks and chit chat. At the end of the day, results prevail. And to get results, you need to put in the action.

Problems encountered and challenges faced. Life is not all rosy. Describe the issues that appear. It could be a problem faced today that you will solve tomorrow, or a problem today that you would seek your mentor’s advice, or even a problem that cannot be solved.

Questions for the mentors. This is where you seek valuable advice and guidance from your mentors. The questions should be based on your mentors’ experience and niche knowledge, not something that can be found easily online. Else, it would be spoon-feeding to you.

Repeat this activity daily, and see the patterns that arises. If you take this exercise seriously, you will find:
1. You are taking more and more actions. Actions lead to results. And more results will lead to more favorable results.
2. You will see a pattern. Successful people thrive from consistent patterns.
3. You will see if your are solving your problems independently or with your mentors’ help.
4. The problems you faced will be more difficult, hence you are leading a higher standard of life. You’re breaking through your comfort zone.
5. You’re giving more and more valuable questions to your mentors, and learning at a higher speed in the same time.

What would you start asking from your mentor today?



Burning House

There are two great days in a person’s life – the day we are born and the day we discover why. – William Barclay

Imagine this.

There’s a burning house right in front of you. It was so hot, that it could melt down steel.

Going into the house would mean burns on your skin, and possible death.

Would you go in? If I were to offer you $10? How about $100? How about $1000?

You must be thinking, you must be crazy! I’m not risking my life for that meagre sum of money.

How about this? Imagine your 4-year old kid is in the house? What would you do? You would have jumped into the house without a second thought.

What has changed? It is still the same burning house. It is still the same you.

The only thing that has changed is your reason. The reason why. Why would you do that?

If your reason is strong, you would be compelled to take action. If your why is weak or vague, you would be like meh.

Your reason would determine your action or inaction.

If you really want to pursue your dreams, you must first have a compelling reason. A solid reason on why you are chasing it. A do or die attitude. Either you go all out, or just give it up.

Only then would you create an unstoppable force to carry you on.

What is your compelling reason to pursue your dreams?



Setting Goals

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. – C. S. Lewis

Adrienne Dorison shared her three steps in setting successful goals.

First, you must make a decision. Be committed in it. Don’t just be merely interested, be committed.

Secondly, you have to believe in it. You have to believe in your capability to achieve your goals within the time line.

Finally, you have to take actions. Actions materialize your intangible goals. Actions, regardless of good or bad, would give you feedback. And from there, you will know whether you should continue doing it, or to change your strategies accordingly.

How would you set your goals effectively?


Commitment vs Interested

Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort. – Paul J. Meyer

The next time you wanted to pursue something, ask yourself – are you committed to getting it? Or are you merely interested in it?

If you are committed to it, you would not be stopped by any obstacles, challenges or trouble. If you are merely interested, you would quit on the first sign of problem.

If you are committed to it, you would put all your effort and time to it. If you are merely interested, you put in bare minimum effort.

If you are committed to it, you would make proper planning, think about the actions that would bring you there and resolve to pay the price. If you are merely interested, you would let it pass by.

If you are committed to it, you would take every actions in your hand. If you are merely interested, you would leave things to chances.

What is your stance? Are you committed to your success? Or are you just merely interested?



Leap Day

No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important. – Mary Kay Ash

It’s Leap Day today. There’s only a 29-February, once every 4 years,

Have you thought to yourself, how have you been living your life?

Leap day serves a reminder to us.

Life is like a leap day, it comes once in a blue moon. You don’t see it every year. Chances in life don’t come knocking on your door repeatedly.

Unlike leap day, chances in life is unpredictable. Chances appearing but once. When it is there, you have to make a decision – to take or not to take.

Time past by is unrecoverable. You can’t rewind the clock, to relive the past.

Do we live in regret of the things we didn’t do?
Do we live in regret of the principles that we failed to stand up for?
Do we live in regret for failing to say the “I love you” to those who matters?

Make every second counts. Live life to the fullest. Experience life as it is meant to be. Think of the thoughts that lifts you up, speak of words that inspire, do the things that you are proud of.

Leave a legacy behind. But first, enjoy this very moment. Be in the present. Be focused.

Life is too short to be wasted. Every single day is a gift to us. As much as we would enjoy it, we would contribute it back to our family, our society, our Earth.

What are the chances you are grasping today? Take action now, never to delay any more.



Stop Hoping

Action is the foundational key to all success. – Pablo Picasso

We always think, we are busy now. Our dreams can wait later.

We need to work at a stable job to support our family. After the kids have grown up, then we can pursue our dreams.

This is a lousy job, maybe we work for another 5 years, then we change job.

We hope for the change of external conditions. But we all know that the changes are not controllable.

A better and wiser way is to take charge of our lives. Don’t wait. Life is short. Take up the responsibilities of directing your lives.

We all have but one life. Make it count.

Don’t wait for situations to change. Change it today!

What is your dream? What is the one action you can do right now, moving you forward to your dreams?


Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better

Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better. – Samuel Beckett

Reading a book by Pema Chodron, titled Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better.

The book is a collection of her commencement address to the 2014 graduating class of Naropa University and a Q&A with Tami Simon.

Some thoughts from reading the book.

We do not know what would come next. We will never be able to predict the future. Yet, we must move on. Move forward. Dare to take the action.

No note cards. We can prepare as well as we can, and yet we can’t really control the future. We shouldn’t be too rigid. Let the future takes its course, and we adapt accordingly. Do not limit what the future has in hold for us, simply because we have prepared and follow our “note cards” steadfastly.

We tend to label ourselves as “failures” when things go wrong. When things don’t happen to what we have planned. When the results ain’t something that we are happy with.

When bad things happen. it is not necessarily a bad thing. People would say “It is the worst thing ever.” A wise man would say,”Maybe yes, maybe no.” Do not be swayed by the outer circumstances. An event has no meaning, unless the meaning you have given to it. That’s what Tony Robbins has once said.

You could feel frustrated or feel at raged, for the failures that you encounter. Or… Or, you could try to understand why the failures happen. What contributed to it? What tell-tale signs of it? What did you learn? How did you feel? How could you do better next time?

Failures are like walking at the beach and the waves start knocking you, face down to the sand. Real failures are when you remain lying there, suffocated in the sand. To get up, time after time, that’s living. It is tough, but through time and effort, the waves would be insignificant. The struggle would be less of a hassle. You would be more empowered.

You can’t control what has happened. But you can control on how you react to it. Or rather, you choose on how you respond to it. Remember, every action is a choice. You choose to respond. It’s a responsibility.

There’s more to the book, it’s better when you read it yourself.



The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living? – Bob Marley

I went to watch this show once with a dear friend of mine. And now it’s showing on TV. How time flies.

To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life.

We’ve all been living our lives like Walter. A normal life, yet we yearn and dream of spectacular fireworks.

Nothing out of the ordinary, but we all knew that we are destined for more.

Unless we step  out of our comfort zone, it would forever remain a dreams to us.

We must have the courage to pursue what makes us alive.

With actions, the boundary between dreams and reality will be fuzzy.

With beliefs, dreams will become reality.

It’s good to daydream, especially when our lives are mundane. But there is more to our lives than to just daydream.

We have the magic within us to make our dreams come true.

The question is, would you take the plunge?


Playing With Domino

Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence. – Hal Borland


Saw a friend posted the video on his Facebook page.

Never doubt your capabilities.

Don’t doubt your actions, regardless how small it may seem.

The most important thing is being persistent.

You may not see the effects of your actions for now. Keep persisting.

You may think you are on an uphill battle. Keep persisting.

You may find yourself lost and delusional. Keep persisting.

It’s only a matter of time, when your efforts pay off.

The longer you work for it, the sweeter is the rewards.

What are you doing right now that haven’t seen any results yet? Believe in the domino effect. Keep persisting.