Excuses to Success

Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change.  – Stephen Hawking

Many people dream of success. And yet, there are just so many people who didn’t achieve it.

When probed, there are “reasons” for not achieving success. Are they really “reasons”? Or are they merely excuses?

Let’s see what are the common excuses for not chasing after our dreams. And more importantly, how can we overcome it?

Excuse #1 : I have no time.
Like, seriously? Of course, there is no denying that there are people who work two shifts to make ends meet. These are the kind of people whose rest time is their 4 hours sleep. I understand their plight.

But for the rest of us, do we really don’t have the time? If we would watch less a couple of streaming movies, that would free up  a couple of hours a day.

It is just a matter of prioritization. What is more important? Your current joy or the fruits of your effort?

Excuse #2 : I have no money.
There are people who are poor. And then, there are people who spends indiscriminately. You have the money , all along. It depends on how you spend it. Do you spend it on  buying the things that you want (but don’t need)? Or do you spend it on the things that will help you achieve your dreams faster?

There is also a misconception here. You don’t really need a lot of money to achieve success. All you need is to learn how to make do with what you have. When money is a concern, you need to think creatively. How can you leverage on your time and effort to make up for the lack of money?

Excuse #3 : I don’t have the luck.
Don’t aim for the lucky break. Lottery winners are far and away. And even if they win, their winnings don’t last.

Make your own luck. Chase after each and every one of the opportunities. Always be on the learning. Luck is when opportunity meets preparedness.

Excuse #4 : I don’t have the connections.
To have success, you need to know the correct people. People who can make the wheel go round. We are not living in an island. We need each other’s help.

How then do we increase our connection? Always be the helpful one. Develop a habit of helping others. People like people who are helpful and kind. This is a characteristics that draw people to you.

Always seek out new friends. Go out to social gathering and make it a point to know at least two people at each event. Seek out where successful people would gather, and attend the events whenever possible.

These excuses are merely excuses. They hold no power on us, unless we let them to. Don’t give in. Make it a stand, your stand, to say – today is my day. I shall not give any excuses. I shall do my part. I shall work hard for my success.

What would you do? What is your excuse today? And more importantly, how do you resolve on your excuse?

 

Meng

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Myths of Wealth

Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay. – Simone de Beauvoir

Reading the foreword by Dan Miller for Jaime Tardy’s The Eventual Millionaire. There is some misconception on wealth.

Myth 1:  We chase after money directly.
Money is a byproduct. Money is the result of values that we put in for other people. People pay us for a work well done.

Myth 2: Envy other rich people.
Successful rich people do not envy other rich people. They learn from them, and still remain humble. They learn from others, and at the same time, teach others as well.

Myth 3: Be greedy and stingy.
Wealthy people are not stingy. They freely share, for they believe that there is enough wealth for everyone. They believe in abundance.

Myth 4: Wealthy people are selfish.
We do not live for ourselves alone. We live by contributing and helping one another. The richer we are, the more we are in a position to help others.

Myth 5: Rich is a game of luck.
We don’t get rich by being lucky. We get rich by putting in the effort, chasing after the opportunities, being relentless in pursuing our dreams.

Differentiate facts from myth and you will be well on your way to wealth.  Don’t be ignorant. Don’t be stubborn. Live your life well – in happiness and full of abundance.

 

Meng

We Trained Like Superhero

Change your thoughts and you change your world. – Norman Vincent Peale

If you want to look fit like a superhero:

You need to have a strategy. It is all inclusive. Not a single tactic works alone. You need to encompass everything.

You need to eat right. No sugar.

You need to exercise right. Strength training. Isolation. Cardio when necessary.

You need to take the right supplement.

You need to have enough rest.

Always work hard, and always believe in yourself.

 

Meng

Be The Change

I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination. – Jimmy Dean

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

That’s one popular quote by Mahatma Gandhi.

If you want peace in the world, be an advocate for peace.

If you want to stop hunger in the world, step up and help the poor.

If you want to improve the life of the many people, promote education.

Too much of a time, when we stoop down so low to become keyboard warrior.

Too much of a time, when we resign in life and complain of the injustice.

Too much of a time, when we give up our power to others to change the world.

We wrongly thought that we are incapable to change the world.

We wrongly thought that we are lazy to change the world.

We wrongly thought that we are indifferent to change the world.

We have the power within us to change. We do. We really do.

We are hardworking. We are not as lazy as we thought about us.

We do care. We are not indifferent.

Banish all the negative thoughts. We are all wonders. We have miracles within us.

And the best way to change the world is to actively pursuit it.

Choose a  cause that you are passionate in. Take a lead in it. Be relentless in pursuing it. Don’t take no for an answer.

Until you fight for your dreams, you would not have really lived.

You are but a living zombie till then.

Stand up for the change that you want to see.

 

Meng

being kind

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. – Aesop

There’s one colleague who is extremely kind to me.

He is one who is very helpful. There’s a new project that I am currently doing, which is full of obstacles. And yet, he keeps on assisting me.

He is one who likes to share. He likes reading books on the topics of healthy lifestyle and always shares new ideas on eating healthily.

I thought it is just his character of treating people well. This is true. He treats  other people nicely.

However, he also told me, he is kind to me because of an act of kindness I did for him long time ago.

Long time ago. It was like a few years back.

It was nothing amount to greatness, just a small gesture. A very small gesture that I would just have dismissed it.

However, he keeps it in mind, and always help me, whenever he can.

An act of kindness, regardless how small, is appreciated.

An act of kindness, no matter how far back was done in the past, is still remembered.

An act of kindness, to whomever it is given, is a gift without a price tag.

Be kind without any expectation.

Be kind, just because.

Make kindness as your lifestyle. And you will be pleasantly surprise with the end results.

 

Meng

Criteria for Success

I recognize myself to be an intensely naive person. Most novelists are, despite frequent pretensions to deep socio-political insight. – Zadie Smith

I wanted to improve on my writings. I’ve blogged a lot. There is a lot of word counts there, and yet, my skills are nowhere sufficient.

What is needed for success?

Jeff Goins once said, to improve on your writing, you need to focus on the frequency, not on quantity. It is better to write consistently and to binge-writing.

Think about it. It does make sense, isn’t it?

It is easier for us to accept new habit, if we make it ridiculously easy. It is easier to say, I’ll write ten minutes a day,  daily, instead of one hour a day, once a week.

Also, our mind thrives with manageable stress, and not in overwhelming stress. Binge-writing, for example 8 hours straight, cause strain on your brain. You will lose focus, feel derailed,  lose interest, lose determination. Stress is a main killer for creativity, a key component for writing.

Focus on frequency, not in quantity.

The more you write, the more frequent you write, the better you become.

This applies to every skills that you want to master.

 

Meng

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