Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better. – Samuel Beckett
Reading a book by Pema Chodron, titled Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better.
The book is a collection of her commencement address to the 2014 graduating class of Naropa University and a Q&A with Tami Simon.
Some thoughts from reading the book.
We do not know what would come next. We will never be able to predict the future. Yet, we must move on. Move forward. Dare to take the action.
No note cards. We can prepare as well as we can, and yet we can’t really control the future. We shouldn’t be too rigid. Let the future takes its course, and we adapt accordingly. Do not limit what the future has in hold for us, simply because we have prepared and follow our “note cards” steadfastly.
We tend to label ourselves as “failures” when things go wrong. When things don’t happen to what we have planned. When the results ain’t something that we are happy with.
When bad things happen. it is not necessarily a bad thing. People would say “It is the worst thing ever.” A wise man would say,”Maybe yes, maybe no.” Do not be swayed by the outer circumstances. An event has no meaning, unless the meaning you have given to it. That’s what Tony Robbins has once said.
You could feel frustrated or feel at raged, for the failures that you encounter. Or… Or, you could try to understand why the failures happen. What contributed to it? What tell-tale signs of it? What did you learn? How did you feel? How could you do better next time?
Failures are like walking at the beach and the waves start knocking you, face down to the sand. Real failures are when you remain lying there, suffocated in the sand. To get up, time after time, that’s living. It is tough, but through time and effort, the waves would be insignificant. The struggle would be less of a hassle. You would be more empowered.
You can’t control what has happened. But you can control on how you react to it. Or rather, you choose on how you respond to it. Remember, every action is a choice. You choose to respond. It’s a responsibility.
There’s more to the book, it’s better when you read it yourself.