Let our New Year’s resolution be this: we will be there for one another as fellow members of humanity, in the finest sense of the word. – Goran Persson
It has been days since we celebrated New Year. Are we too late to write down our resolutions now?
Of course not. When there’s a will, there is never a time too late.
But first, let’s see. Why so many people set their new year resolution only to see it fail, year after year after year?
I know how it feels, for I have fallen the same.
But why? Why do we fail?
Because the goal is not a must. It’s something that is good to have, but not something that we must have. It’s good to be rich, but we are still living comfortably. Why bother working for an extra 1 to 2 hours daily when we can still pay our bill?
A new year resolution set based on other people’s expectation. You think studying harder would make your parents happy. You think getting slimmer would make your spouse happy.
It’s just too much of a hassle. Changing habits take time. And effort. It’s tough to put on the running shoes, and go for a run, when there’s a nice drama showing on the TV. Especially if it’s cloudy and going to rain any moment now.
It’s a very big difference with our habits. It’s a big jump from being couch potato to a gym enthusiast. From a shy guy to an outspoken stage-controlling speaker. From an illiterate to a literature best-selling author. The gap alone is overwhelming for us to even begin taking the first step.
You’re just going through the motion. It’s just a process that everyone is doing. If everyone’s doing it, you do it as well. Even if you don’t understand how it would help you. You just do it, for the sake of doing it.
You never believe in yourself. You don’t think it would ever work. You’ll just put in on paper, while thinking it would never work. Why bother? Why put in the effort? Or, you may think to yourself, I’ll do it even if I know it won’t work.
You just couldn’t give up your current lifestyle. How do you expect to wake up at 5am if you still prefer clubbing till 2am? How do you want to go out running, if you still want to watch movies at the same time? How are you going to spend the time reading, when all you thinking about is the good time out window-shopping?
Take stock of how you have been setting your new year resolution all these years. How efficient have they become? What went right? And what went wrong? How much distraction in your life? And how they affect your goals? Think through and you will find the answers within you.